You're not failing your child.
You're parenting from a starting point that was never designed to build connection.
Helping overwhelmed, committed parents stop managing behavior and start building calm, connected relationships with their children.
No parent starts off knowing what to do...
Without Conscious Effort, Our Parenting Methods Can Create Conflict Instead of Connection.
The authoritarian way most of us have been taught to parent, creates conflict and frustration, endless power struggles and leaves us with broken and distant relationships with our children.
When we parent our children without working through our own history, we are destined to repeat painful patterns we ourselves experienced as children, no matter how badly we want it to be different.
Healing
Heal the wounds you experienced as a child, so your children don’t have to
Trust
Create a relationship with your children based on trust, connection and collaboration
Harmony
Experience peace, harmony and mutual understanding with your children
Your child isn't the problem
(and neither are you)
Behavior is communication. When children act out, shut down, or push back, they're not defying you. They're telling you something they don't have words for yet.
The shift that changes everything isn't a new strategy or a better system. It's learning to regulate yourself first, so you can understand what your child actually needs, and respond from clarity instead of survival.
Conformity is not the same as connection. And connection is what creates lasting change.
You don't need someone to fix your family, you need someone who's been where you are.
I’m Kristin Schmoke, a parent coach, educator, and mother of four with over 25 years of experience supporting children and families.
I hold a master’s degree in education and certifications in parent coaching, life and health coaching, and neuro-identity work. I’ve taught children across nearly every type of learning environment there is.
And still, I struggled at home.
I spent years focusing on behavior, trying to manage and correct and keep the peace, until I realized that everything I was doing was creating distance instead of connection. When I stopped trying to fix my son and started looking at how I was showing up, everything shifted.
That’s the work I do with parents now.
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How It Works:
Book a free 30 minute call where we’ll identify your biggest parenting challenge and I can offer support, and you can ask any questions.
Explore working together. I'll explain my approach and we'll see if coaching is the right fit for your family.
No pressure, just clarity. Whether we work together or not, you'll leave with a clear next step.
Ways We Can Work Together
Love Grows
A free 3 day email challenge designed to create small daily shifts that strengthen connection and help your child feel safe and understood.
Parenting Is Not An Emergency
Stop fighting behavior and start understanding your child with this 4 week virtual mini series for frustrated parents. Starts April 27.
The Connection Reset
Private coaching for parents who are ready to change the relationship, not just the behavior. This isn't a quick fix, this is deep, lasting work.
The traditional
‘power-over’ model
of parenting
isn’t working.
It makes you feel like you’re not doing a good job.
But that's not the truth.
I believe that the real issue is that we’re not taught how to be the kind of parents most of us long to be so we end up slipping into the patterns that were ingrained in us in our own childhoods.
Which is why when you contact me, you will be met with understanding, a non-judgemental openness and a supportive, personalized, effective plan that I will personally guide you through every step of the way.
What Parents Are Saying
“Our family was feeling so strained and divided by communication breakdown and behavior challenges. Kristin helped us to feel in control even when emotions were super high.”
-Meaghan S.
“Thank YOU for all your amazing wisdom, encouragement and attention!!! You are TRULY gifted as a leader, spaceholder and parent coach!!”
-Tere M.
“I experienced some great results with Kristin's help. It's really helped us get through a lot of those hard parenting times. You know, it's your family you're investing in”
-Allison M.
Let's Talk!
So that you can stop blaming yourself.
And instead take the first step towards becoming the kind of parent you know you can be.
